I Need To Know The Age Of My Wedding Guests. Can I Use The RSVP Card To Ask For The Age Of The Guest?
February 42010
The reason I want to know the age is because the reception venue will give a discount on children between 3 and 12 years of age and children under 3 are free. I also would like to know to make accommodations for high chairs or room for a stroller when a baby/small child is present.
Why is everyone saying she should know the ages of the children?! what if a couple has 3 children, 2, 11, and 15 and only one of them is coming?? If they just put that 3 people are attending how would she know if it is the 2 year old, 11 year old, or 15 year old??
I agree that you should put it on the RSVP in the form of...
___ adults 13 and older
___ children 3-12
and
___ children under 3
Edit: I agree that i would not be comfortable in putting my age, as an adult, which is why i agree with the __ adults 13 and older..>!
February 4th, 2010 at 4:36 pm
can’t you ask your family to help? putting that on the RSVP might look crowded…sounds like you are inviting a lot of people you don’t know- good luck!
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February 4th, 2010 at 5:10 pm
If you are inviting them to your wedding, don’t you already know the ages of the kids? If not, then have it printed on your rsvp card, how many? adults 13 and over____ and children 3-12____ and under 3_____ then let them fill in the blanks. Then when you get them back you will know an aproximate count for high chairs etc.
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February 4th, 2010 at 5:59 pm
No, don’t ask for the age on the card, since people will assume you want the ages of the adults, too. If you honestly don’t know the ages of the children you’re inviting to your own wedding, then put on the card something like –
Number of adult guests attending ____
Children under 12 attending ____
Children under age 3 ____
Honestly, though, how many children are attending?? And shouldn’t you already have a ballpark idea of how old they are?? I would think that this would just be the kind of thing you could ask around about. Between your family and your fiance’s family, shouldn’t SOMEONE know if a specific guest has a baby or a ten year old?? If you know a family well enough to invite their young children to your wedding, I’d assume you’d know them well enough to know the approximate age of their children.
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February 4th, 2010 at 6:21 pm
The only people that you may not know the ages to are dates. Other then that if they are being invited to your wedding shouldn’t you already know their age or at least a pretty good idea?! Especially for the children. . .JMO
I guess you could put that on the RSVP.
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B2B 12/13/08
February 4th, 2010 at 6:30 pm
Yes, the RSVP card is an appropriate place for the "Age" blank to get filled out. However, make sure you let your guests know that you only need the ages of the children attending the wedding, not the ages of the entire guest list.
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February 4th, 2010 at 6:35 pm
You can include in the RSVP card something like
______Adults
______Children (under 12)
Then since you probably know who has an infant under 3, you can call and ask if they’re bringing the baby so you can make arrangements for high chairs, etc.
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February 4th, 2010 at 6:52 pm
Requesting the information on the RSVP card would work well, as long as you do it tactfully and formal. State such as this:
Your reply is requested by June 30th, 2008.
_______ Can Attend
_______ Cannot Atttend
_______ Children Attending, Ages__________
Hope this helps, and good luck~! ♥
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February 4th, 2010 at 7:13 pm
No you may not ask the age of guests. I would be mortified to see this on the invite.
You can set up your RSVP like so:
____ Adults _____ children (3-12 years of age)
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February 4th, 2010 at 7:20 pm
Why is everyone saying she should know the ages of the children?! what if a couple has 3 children, 2, 11, and 15 and only one of them is coming?? If they just put that 3 people are attending how would she know if it is the 2 year old, 11 year old, or 15 year old??
I agree that you should put it on the RSVP in the form of…
___ adults 13 and older
___ children 3-12
and
___ children under 3
Edit: I agree that i would not be comfortable in putting my age, as an adult, which is why i agree with the __ adults 13 and older..>!
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February 4th, 2010 at 7:50 pm
If you ask me it’s a bit rude. After you receive their RSVP I’d place a call and ask for their ages. This will allow you to explain if they are wondering why the information is needed. You’d be surprised at what people get offended at these days, especially around weddings.
At my wedding, we stated children where able to come but my quest list was only 150 and we knew each family member, friend and child personally so we didn’t need to know any ages. My guess is your having a rather large wedding. Keep in mind too, most quests will not want to bring their children unless they can’t get a sitter for the evening.
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February 4th, 2010 at 8:09 pm
Call the people. Or use your best judgment– that’s what the caterer will be doing.
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February 4th, 2010 at 8:27 pm
Call the parents and ask.
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February 4th, 2010 at 9:15 pm
I would say if you were asking adults for their ages, it would be rude. To ask for kids’ ages is okay, but you should be able to estimate on many of them, and I wouldn’t think your venue would demand to see ID for each child. Perhaps on the RSVP you should ask them if they would like to reserve a high chair. If you specify, and they don’t reserve, it’s their problem.
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February 4th, 2010 at 9:47 pm
Just guess….
I work at a banquet facility, and we offer a reduced price kid’s meal for 12 and under, but if they don’t know, it’s not like our staff is going to run around carding the kids the day of the wedding.
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February 4th, 2010 at 10:24 pm
On the RSVP card ask for that information & tell them to answer on the date u have provided, that will make things much easier.
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February 4th, 2010 at 11:01 pm
What I would do is have on your RSVP card:
Toddler meal – _____
Child’s meal -3-12 – ______
Adult meal _______
Then list the options for them…
toddler – 1/2 grilled cheese…. mac/cheese
child – baked/grilled chicken…. burger…..
adult – prime rib… chicken french…
That’s the only way I know of to do it.
Good luck, and Congratulations!
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February 4th, 2010 at 11:23 pm
if it’s so you can get a discount, it’s sort of gauche to ask on the invite. just estimate- since people under 12 don’t carry ID’s, there’s really no way for your caterer to verify how old these kids are anyway.
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February 5th, 2010 at 12:13 am
You may not in any way ask the age of your adult guests. YOu may however put a place (on the RSVP card – not the invitation) for guests to put a total number of adults and a total number of children attending.
Mr. Smith and __ adult guest and __ children (3-12) __ children (0-3).
I personally dont know anyone who would car a stroller to a wedding receiption, but you might make arrangements to accomodate highchairs and car seats. Some high chairs will flip upside down and some carseats will fit in the legs that way. The safer way as well are carseat slings, but it’s pretty much up to what your venue can offer. I would just put highchairs at every place where they said there was a child 0-3
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February 5th, 2010 at 12:54 am
It’s nice of you to be thinking of your younger crowd and the guests with smaller children. I recently went to a wedding where there were no high chairs and it was such a struggle trying to hold on to my son while trying to feed him. Also, I noticed one of the other women trying to push a stroller around and how difficult it was to maneuver. And it’s so hard these days to keep up with who’s kids are how old, so I understand your reasoning there as well. On the RSVP card have it say Guests over age of 12 ____, Guests 3-12 ____, and Guests under 3 ____. This will help you organize and while some might feel affronted by it, I wouldn’t worry too much about your feelings. Best wishes!
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