Does It Make You A Bad Parent If…?
February 182010
you buy Luvs (or your favorite discount brand) instead of the expensive mess like Huggies Supreme? I buy luvs for my son, and I always feel bad when I even see the welfare moms buying Pampers and Huggies Supreme for their baby. I mean, I could afford them but why? Logically, it does not compute with me. Cheap diaper works great...it's being used as a waste receptacle anyways, go with it. I also never had one of those hi-speed baby carrier thingies for my son that clicks into bases in the car and in the matching stroller. I had one that was a hand me down from a friend, and that is what he used until I bought his big car seat. Bad mamma huh?
Nope. I had 6 kids, stair steps, but back then we used cloth diapers, wash em, use em again! Now a days people use what they think is best for them. Maybe the Pampers brand was on sale that you didn't know about? Maybe that was the mothers way of splurging, maybe the Pampers brand had a coupon that you didn't know about? Don't feel guilty about the small stuff sweetie, in a couple of years the BIG stuff will have you second thinking yourself, disposable diapers should not be a concern. Oh and the car thingy, girlfriend please, a car seat is a car seat as long as it holds the kids in place. Don't sweat the small stuff.
February 18th, 2010 at 6:58 am
you are mot a bad mamma
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February 18th, 2010 at 7:36 am
Not bad, just realistic. I think that babies grow out of stuff so quickly that there really isnt any point in spending money on expensive stuff when you won’t need it in a couple of months anyway.
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:14 am
no you just make sure that you can provide for him in all ways by making your dollar go farther. I do the same things ….even check out childrens second hand shops, I find stuff with brand name tags that still have store tags for a lot less money.
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:38 am
Maybe if you were on Welfare and got food stamps you could afford them, too. Lack of responsibility is the problem there. Thank God your kid has a mother who will teach him or her the right values.
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February 18th, 2010 at 9:16 am
Don’t let it get you down. Life ain’t about the stuff, anyway. Sounds like you’ve already figured that out, which puts you ahead of the game.
That’s also a pretty okay lesson to teach your kids(s).
Godspeed.
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February 18th, 2010 at 9:25 am
OK, unless you are not changing him properly there is nothing wrong with it. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with hand me downs as long as they are still functioning properly. I think if these are the biggest things you question when you think of your parenting skills you are gonna be OK. Just think of it this way the less you spend on diapers and all that the more you can spend on things the baby will actually enjoy. YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM. you’re just using your budgeting skills : )
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February 18th, 2010 at 9:32 am
No, not a bad mom. Actually you are pretty smart…you are able to get what your child needs without spending an arm & a leg for it.
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February 18th, 2010 at 9:58 am
Don’t let it bother you. Luvs were a much better diaper than the more expensive brands when my children were babies. The absorbed so much better than Huggies. My eldest was in a cast, and as a result, I had to trim the edges of the diapers. Pampers and Huggies did not work for this but Luvs, and at the time, the Toys r Us brand diapers too, were much better. Next time you see a welfare mom wasting money, do not get ashamed of yourself, get mad at these people for wasting YOUR tax dollars.
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February 18th, 2010 at 10:26 am
no
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February 18th, 2010 at 10:42 am
No you are not a bad mom, you are also not having the government pay for your diapers, so you are making a practical choice. It’s a whole lot easier to spend more money than you have to when it’s not your money. I have used both high end brands and Luvs. Personally, I prefer the Luvs.
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February 18th, 2010 at 10:47 am
no way are you a bad mom… i grew up wearing the cloth diapers that were recycled (washed) and brought back to the house! my dad was a doctor and my mother a nurse…… we definitely could have afforded the disposable. but the thing is….. it is awesome to set an example like that for your children…. teaches the value of a dollar
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February 18th, 2010 at 10:57 am
I always bought what was on sale or what I had a coupon for…..whatever ended up costing me the least.
As far as the matching clicking car seat/stroller/whatever……anything that I didn’t get at my baby shower, I picked up at a resale shop.
I think it makes you a good parent. You pay attention to what you spend your money on, your children will do the same. Good for you!
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February 18th, 2010 at 11:14 am
Diapers are diapers ..save all the money your not spending on the expensive ones ..for your sons future your not a bad mother at all you do what you need to do..my sister’s daughter always got stuff handed to her and then she handed them to her friends..she went to many garage sales also…i doesn’t make you a bad mother at all..just thrifty
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February 18th, 2010 at 11:20 am
No, you’re being sensible.
Does that mean I’m a bad person because I feed my family generic brands (Vons, etc) of things like jelly or canned tomatoes, because I don’t want to simply piss money away?? NO!
In today’s society, being a snob is acceptable – even encouraged, even if it completely lacks all common sense! Good for you for making better more economical choices (and shame on the dumba$$es of the world who do such stupid stuff!)
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February 18th, 2010 at 11:35 am
Use the diapers you can afford. Some of those welfare moms drive SUVs, too. I was put in cloth diapers because I was allergic to Pampers; that doesn’t make my parents better or worse than any other. If your kid can use Luvs, more power to you.
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February 18th, 2010 at 11:48 am
Because you care what people think, YES!!!!
You are actually worrying whether or not people think you are a good parent??????? Better start saving $$ for you kid’s therapist, cause he’s gonna need it
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February 18th, 2010 at 12:25 pm
Nope. I had 6 kids, stair steps, but back then we used cloth diapers, wash em, use em again! Now a days people use what they think is best for them. Maybe the Pampers brand was on sale that you didn’t know about? Maybe that was the mothers way of splurging, maybe the Pampers brand had a coupon that you didn’t know about? Don’t feel guilty about the small stuff sweetie, in a couple of years the BIG stuff will have you second thinking yourself, disposable diapers should not be a concern. Oh and the car thingy, girlfriend please, a car seat is a car seat as long as it holds the kids in place. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
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February 18th, 2010 at 1:09 pm
Maybe the other moms are on welfare because they are overspending on things like expensive diapers. My daughter wore the Wal-Mart brand with the ducks on the front. I don’t think she’ll be scarred for life.
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February 18th, 2010 at 1:59 pm
no ur not a bad mom i used a carseat that was a hand me down as long as its still safe. and as for diapers i buy cloth. so i payed 30$ for 3 dozen diapers and thay have lasted me a year and a 1/2 so far and now my other son is useing them
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February 18th, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Sounds like you are a good mama, saving money for more important things than out doing the Jones. Congratulations
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February 18th, 2010 at 2:57 pm
You’re not a bad parent; you’re just using common sense. Now I wish I could use Luvs, but my son has a Houdini winky when he wears Luvs . . . he manages to pee and none of it is in his diaper! Because of that, I’m a Huggies mom. I buy tons of them when they are on sale and I use my coupons to save even more. When you have a family, you do whatever you can to save money. As for the infant car seat/stroller combo, I bought mine on sale at Kmart for $90 and I’m about to pass it on to a friend who’s due next month. My son’s big boy car seat was $75, but it converts to a booster later. I’d rather pay extra for something that I will be able to use for a very long time.
Good luck!
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Mom of two girls (16 & 13) and two boys (6 & 1)
February 18th, 2010 at 3:06 pm
My wife and I have three children (two of which are in diapers) we could afford the MOST EXPENSIVE brands but for what? We buy LUVS as well and sometime we will buy the Wal Mart brand. I mean if you think about it whats the purpose of a diaper in the first place? A cloth designed too absorb human waste. I dint care what cartoon is on the diaper as long as it works.
I think its up to the parent as to what they buy but I do not have a clue why people seem to wanna buy diapers that are so expensive, it makes no sense.
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February 18th, 2010 at 3:55 pm
Ahh, the corporate guilt we all fall victim to! Whether you are a bad parent or not (in your case, I’m guessing…NOT!) has nothing to do with the brand of diapers you buy, nor the level of technology options for a car seat! Saving money by buying a cheaper brand of diapers makes you a responsible parent, because then you will have more money to: save for the future, or spoil yourself a smidge, or give a larger donation to charity.
One less moment spent stressing over "stuff" (and the subsequent bills….) is one more moment to hug your kid!!
If saving money makes you a bad mom, we need lots and lots and lots more bad moms!!
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February 18th, 2010 at 4:09 pm
Actually consumer reports rate Luvs as the best buy for your money so you are a very wise mother. It is more important to teach your child good spending habits than it is to have them in the most expensive diaper. Save your money and put it towards a family vacation or their education something that will last them and not end up in the diaper genie two hours after they put it on! Besides some of the women you see on welfare may not have needed assistance if they were as money wise as you!
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February 18th, 2010 at 4:48 pm
Well, the type of mother you are should not be based on what brand of an item you buy for your child. Also, if you obsess about these things-there may be another issue that you are not dealing with here. I can tell you that the important things that says you are a good mother has nothing to do with worrying about what other people are buying or not buying for their children. The statement you made about "welfare mothers" was just outright ignorant. I am not defending anyone but the statement that you made "is what it is".
What makes you a responsible mother (take mental notes please):
1. You love your child(ren) and you show them that you do.
2. You are not abusive towards your child(ren) in any form.
3. You provide food, clothing, shelter.
4. You make sure that they are being properly educated regularly (going to school if age appropriate).
5. You provide a safe and stable environment for your child(ren).
If you are not doing any of the things listed above then-you might want to ask yourself that question again.
Hope this helps.
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February 18th, 2010 at 5:09 pm
No your just a smart mama I use luvs for my son they work great and as for "welfare" moms yeah that wasnt nice but my son did have a nice car seat and matching srtoller but there is nothing wrong with hand me downs baby items are expensive and they grow out of them so quickly
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February 18th, 2010 at 5:34 pm
I think your logic is perfect and buying "brand" names to impress other folks is a precedent you really don’t want to start.
If they work, then use them. Put the money you save in a college fund for junior.
You sound practical and that’s a good thing.
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February 18th, 2010 at 6:21 pm
Please I love Luvs….. And you are just more cost concious then other people and probably save alot more money then people who buy everything new!
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February 18th, 2010 at 6:28 pm
no – smart momma! raising kids costs money – save where you can. The only diapers my daughter had that weren’t Luvs were once we got as gifts at the shower. And I love hand me downs! Sometimes when you use WIC or another program, you have to buy a certain brand – so maybe that is why you see it at times. But, if you are happy with Luvs – don’t feel bad!
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February 18th, 2010 at 7:03 pm
consider this – will your child know the difference? it is your child you are buying for after all not other welfare mums.
WE are comfortably off and i still use second hand clothes on my son. Far cheaper and also he doesn’t get snooty about wearing stuff like that which is recycling after all isn’t it?
A bad parent is one that either fails to meet their child’s needs entirely or only does it when it fits in with THEIR own requirements – buying a lower grade nappy/diaper is not ignoring his needs.
In fact when teaching a child the use of a potty using a lower grade nappy can be very useful because they get to learn how uncomfortable they can be and so want to use a potty sooner than if they always have the most absorbent higher grade nappies. (that is for children over the age of 2 tho)
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February 18th, 2010 at 7:42 pm
As long as the baby has plenty of diapers and don’t get diaper rashes it doesn’t matter about the name brand.you have nothing to prove to anyone.
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:00 pm
I’m with you. There is no difference in the diapers then the name on the bag. They all work the same.
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:23 pm
Nope you are not a bad parent. What you save now you can spend for college or something that will change their whole life for the better.
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February 18th, 2010 at 8:50 pm
No, you’re not a bad parent. You’re saving money for your family and that’s a good thing.
I would also add that cloth diapers are a lot cheaper and don’t take up the space in landfills.
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February 18th, 2010 at 9:28 pm
if you think the brand of diapers you buy has anything to do with what kind of parent you are than you are probably a parent who needs a lot of help.
Your child needs you, not day care, human milk, not formula, loving guidance, not hitting. Diapers are irrelevant.
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February 18th, 2010 at 9:39 pm
Why do you think that mothers who buy their babies Huggies Supreme are on welfare? I don’t work, fulltime student, and my baby has Huggies Supreme and I don’t get any welfare. My baby’s father buys her diapers….where’s yours?
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February 18th, 2010 at 10:10 pm
being a good parent cannot be dertimined by the value of materials there more important things to give them like loving them unconditional and making sure you raise them enough to love themselves one day and have a good self esteem, good luck.
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February 18th, 2010 at 10:50 pm
You are doing the right thing. you need money for other things. you are realistic with things.
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